“Carpe Diem. Seize the day, boys. Make your lives extraordinary.”
Quoted from the memorable blockbuster film “Dead Poets Society,” these were the words I recalled when I heard that one of the funniest men on earth had died. His characters made me laugh, cry and remember to keep life in perspective. Whether in “Mrs. Doubtfire,” portraying the hilarious father who didn’t spare extreme measures to reunite with his children, or as John Keating, the unorthodox, free-spirited English teacher in “Dead Poets Society,” Robin Williams’ endearing personality conquered Hollywood and gave the world countless moments of joy for almost four decades.
I was thinking about Williams’ death while walking in the park this morning. I noticed a gentleman I often see there. He sits on the same bench and looks at the horizon, as if contemplating something that no one else can see. His demeanor is somber. His eyes, always sad. I have never seen a smile, even as regulars greet him. Because of his demeanor, I wouldn’t be surprised if someone told me he suffers from severe depression. Indeed, there are people around us who cannot hide their sadness.
Conversely, the news surrounding Williams’ suicide shocked the world because we, his fans, believed the smile. We believed those laughing eyes. We believed that the glamour that surrounded his life was enough to feed his spirit. We believed that the joy he portrayed while performing extended to his personal life.
However, no matter how many journalists and psychologists speculate about the reasons for his depression, one truth remains: Robin Williams felt hopeless. Hopeless enough to take off the mask, turn off the camera and put an end to his life.
His suicide brings hope and joy into perspective in a society where wealth, fame and status are synonyms with success and happiness. It reminds us that there is more than what meets the eye in the cover of magazines and under the limelight. We see famous people’s happy faces and we believe them. We watch them parade their smiles, perfect bodies and mansions and we buy the propaganda – that material possessions bring happiness.
“There is a hole in man’s heart that only God can fill.” In 1670, Blaise Pascal introduced this concept in his book “Pensées,” written as a defense of Christianity. The concept of the “God-shaped hole,” however, has taken on a life of its own and has been used by various theist authors to refer to that perpetual thirst in man’s soul that only God is able to quench. Many spend their lives attempting to fill that void with possessions, relationships and accomplishments, and often get to the end of their lives feeling hopeless and defeated. On the other hand, we meet people of great faith who have very few possessions and even go through unimaginable pain without losing joy and hope.
To many, these people are delusional. To people like myself and so many others, there’s a different answer. God is our hope. That special hole is filled. Indeed, because of hope, I have gone through cancer and did not lose my joy. I have experienced great financial loss without losing perspective. And as I focused on God, regardless of my circumstances, I have found the strength to press on.
No one knows Robin Williams’ relationship with God. I certainly would not dare to speculate. Indeed, even people of faith can lose hope. But I personally choose to keep God in that place designed for no one else but him. Because only in him do I find hope to indeed seize each day and the strength to make life extraordinary.
That was amazing!! You really have a gift! Thank you!!!
Thank you, busy Bee! I’m Proud to be your momma 🙂 Keep Jesus first!
His suicide really surprised me. Why would such a brilliant, talented guy need to end his life in such a way? He had so many people who loved him and would have been there for him through his illness. Why didn’t he know that? It makes me sad every time I think of him and what an early loss for all of us who benefited from the joy he brought to us.
Great summary of some of the exact feelings I was having!
Thank you, Linda! It’s a reminder that only God can fill the deepest longings of our soul. Blessings to you!
Great article Patricia, thanks for the biblical perspective, the only one that can bring Truth to bear on things we have trouble understanding. As you mentioned, there are many people who are laughing on the outside and crying on the inside. A great reminder of why we need to express God’s love to all and be able to share the love of Christ that can bring healing and comfort. I thank God for you and your ministry, may he continue to bless your words with truth and power by the Spirit.
In Christ,
Walt
Thank you, Walt! May we never forget that apart from God, we have NOTHING!
Blessings to you,
Only in Him can ultimate joy and peace be found. Our society, however, elevates the pleasures of this world and promises satisfaction in our hearts only if we have the next best thing available. It leaves one wanting instead of grateful to God for all which we already have.
I pray Robin made his peace with the Lord before his life ended. I read an article which helped me to put it in perspective. The author wrote of the thief on the cross who confessed, in his dying moments, that Christ was the Lord, and Jesus said the man would taste paradise with Him. We can only pray.
Love and blessings, Patricia!
Thanks, Martha! It was a tragic end to a beautiful human being. It just shows that nothing can replace what only God can give us: Peace!
Blessings!